If you have tried everything else and you are still finding that you are not manifesting the wealth you desire, then you must look at the area of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a very high vibrational frequency that will allow you to match up with the frequency of wealth.
If you are like many you may believe that forgiving somebody means accepting that what they did was OK. You may believe that it is saying that the other person deserves to be let off the hook. However, this is simply not the case.
Forgiveness is not about the other person, it is about you. It is about letting the other person know that you now refuse to hold onto the hurt and anger that you have been experiencing. It is about letting them know that although you don’t condone what they have done you do understand that they are human and make mistakes just as you do. By doing so, you can let go and move on without there being any ill feelings.
Remember that the person that you are forgiving knows what they have done, and they must deal with their own emotions surrounding it. You need to focus on how you allow the situation to affect you.
You can either hold onto it for the rest of your life or you can let it go, learn from it and move on to create the best life you possibly can. Holding on to anger, resentment and other negative emotions simply takes up so much space in your heart and leaves less room for positive emotions like joy, excitement and fulfilment. It also produces such a low vibration that it will put a halt on your manifesting potential.
Forgiveness doesn’t just apply to other people. It is not just related to those that have hurt you or done wrong by you, but it also relates to how you feel about yourself. We are all human and we all make mistakes so even if you have experienced some contrast try not to be too hard on yourself for it.
Let me give you a couple of examples of where I had to learn to forgive people and myself for events that have happened in my life. I am not telling you this to ask for pity or to dwell on the past but simply to show you examples of how using my own mind and heart to forgive helped me to move forward…
I have a very close family member who I love dearly that hurt me a lot.
When they got married not only did I have to go to their wedding by myself because my kids weren’t invited and my husband had to look after them but I was also ignored and given attitude to the entire night. Not only that but when the photo album came out and I was looking through it I realised that the only person not in the photo album was me and that even distant relatives who this family member never sees were in the album.
When this family member had kids, I was never told about them and was never invited to the christening. This hurt me deeply because I love this person very much.
Well, one day I was at a funeral for my grandmother when I ran into this family member, whom I hadn’t seen for over a year. I found it hard to be around them to start with. It was raining this day, so I had an umbrella with me as I wandered around the graveyard visiting other relatives and waiting for the funeral to start. After greeting everyone at the funeral and still struggling to talk to this person I decided I wanted to take the umbrella back to the car prior to returning to the service.
As I headed away from the crowd to my car I silently prayed to the universe and to source that when I returned to this person, I would feel no more hurt or resentment and I would actually have forgiven them. Well, source answered me.
As I turned around and headed back, I went up to this person and gave them a big hug and silently said to myself “I forgive you, I love you and it is time for me to move on”. Although I haven’t forgotten what happened, I have forgiven it and realised that this person is only human and as such does make mistakes sometimes.
So, if you are struggling to forgive someone that is very close to you remember to speak to source, to your angels or to anybody else that is helping you on your journey and ask for their help. Before you know it, assistance will come, and you will be able to let the hurt go.
Now I can talk to this person and look past the mistakes that they made.
As I mentioned previously, I was bullied quite badly at school, being ridiculed and tormented and being so upset that I decided to leave at the end of year 10. I had rumours spread about me on numerous occasions and realised that there was nobody at school that I was able to trust. For a long while I was angry at all my friends for letting me down and hurt that many of the people who I thought were friends spread hurtful rumours about me.
However, it wasn’t until after I had left school and I was in a different environment, around different people that everything changed.
As I mentioned, I have always been a pretty positive person who tried to see the good in everybody and everything and so I found that once I was out of the environment of being around these people all the time that I was able to move on and create a new life for myself.
I made a lot of new friends at college and I learnt to forgive the friends that had done wrong by me. I realised that I have always been more mature than my peers and so never quite understood the way they acted at times which was why I made so many good friends with the older people at college. I realised that the reason I didn’t get along with my peers is because I was in a different vibration and so these people were taken out of my reality.
To this day I am friends on face book with a number of these people and I have realised that everybody has the potential to change and grow in their own lives, so we must not judge them for mistakes that they made as teenagers.
The third example I have is one which involved my best friend from high school. During high school and even up until just before I moved to Germany with my husband, we were pretty much inseparable. Although we lived over 100km from each other we still caught up whenever we could. I was there when she went into labour with her first baby and when she suffered from post-natal depression.
However, after she had the baby everything changed. I don’t know if it was the depression or if we were just going down different paths, but we stopped hanging out together and although she agreed to be the bridesmaid at my wedding, she refused to be fitted for the dress which meant that I had to find somebody else.
I was devastated because she was my best friend and we had dreamt of being at each other’s wedding for a long time. Anyway, I asked her if she was going to be at the wedding and she said that of course she would but she didn’t show that day which was very hurtful.
About 5 years passed and I was living in Melbourne, Australia with my toddlers and husband when I had the weirdest dream. I dreamt that we had connected again, hugged and she walked away only to be met with an accident. I woke up drenched in sweat and realised that it was a sign that I needed to get back in touch with her and let her know that I forgave her for what had happened.
You will never guess what happened next. The very next day I got a phone call and it was from her. We had not spoken in 5 years, but she had called my nan to find out my number and she was ringing up to apologise for everything that had happened years previously. We stayed in touch and even caught up a few times after moving back to Perth but eventually we just lost touch. I put it down to us moving in different directions, but I still wish her well and often think about how she is going.
Learn to Forgive Yourself
Well this is not really an example but more a question… Are you a parent? Do you sometimes blame yourself for how your kids are turning out or for not being strict enough with them? Do you feel like if you were a better ‘mother’ or ‘father’ that they would have turned out better? If so, then you wouldn’t be the first.
I am incredibly blessed because I am a mother of 2 amazing teenagers who have both at times in their lives brought me both incredible joy and even occasional discomfort. They have provided serious contrast in my life while at the same time make me smile and feel grateful for all that I have.
Isn’t it funny that being a parent can be so up and down, but it is certainly the one job that truly shows you how to deal with contrast. Anyway, I digress. Well if your answer to the above questions is a yes then it is likely that you are having a hard time forgiving yourself for not being perfect.
I don’t know about you but when I had my kids, I was never given an instruction booklet on how to raise them. I was never told what I should and shouldn’t do and what the correct discipline was to allow them to reach their full potential. I just did the best job I could and thankfully they are both pretty good kids.
It is time for you to stop blaming yourself for the success of your kids and the choices they make in their lives. Stop being so hard on yourself for being human and forgive yourself for any mistakes you have made. Forgiving yourself and loving yourself is an important step when it comes to moving on and manifesting your dream life.
So, how do you learn to forgive???
Write down a list of people (including yourself), events and experiences that you are currently holding resentment to.
For each of the items on your list you need to visually see yourself with that person saying, “I forgive you, I love you, I am sorry and Thank you”.
I forgive you and I love you may seem self-explanatory but why would you tell somebody that you are sorry and thank you.
The reason that you would tell somebody that you are sorry, even if it was not something that you did to them was because you have held onto the hurt for so long and have not moved on sooner.
But why is it that you would say Thank You when they have hurt you. The reason you would say thank you is because the experience that you had with this person caused contrast in your life which has allowed you to grow as a person.
If you feel so inclined some people also like to speak to the person involved or write a letter to them instead. If this resonates with you then feel free to do that but remember that when you speak to them it is not about pointing the blame but is about letting them know that you forgive them for their part in the experience and that you are finally letting go.
Even if you don’t have the same relationship as you once did you are now able to move on and you can be civil with them when you see them, without any hurt or resentment.
If it is yourself that you are needing to forgive then look in the mirror and say the exact same phrases “I forgive you”, “I love you”, “I am sorry” and “Thank You”. Remind yourself that you are not perfect and are entitled to make mistakes and that you are not willing to hold onto these negative emotions for one more second longer.
Now just let go and move on from the hurt and the resentment. If you need to ask for help from your higher being then I recommend you do so as they are always there to help. I then like to burn my list and say goodbye once and for all.
Please note: This article is from my book “Alter Your Money Mindset” which can be found on Amazon, which is why it is based on money, but it can be applied to anything you are wanting to manifest…