I mentioned in my last post about life themes and conscious evolvement that growth comes in large part from our desire to no longer live in fear. Every negative thought we have arises from a past hurt that is still threatening our feeling of safety. Because our brain’s only job is to keep us surviving and we don’t have the consciousness to change the functioning of its threat systems that warn us of danger, attempting to manifest what we want based only on changing our thinking won’t lead us to make lasting changes. At least, not where persistent limiting thoughts have formed over the years.
Before my daughter’s suicide in 2005, I manifested everything I needed in my life. I felt relatively happy and content. Despite this, I constantly worried that there was not enough (childhood dysfunction). I stockpiled the pantry and controlled my environment to fend off any potential threat to my family’s well-being.
When my daughter died, my world instantly crashed. I lost my identity. I became weak and felt insecure. I lost control and all sense of purpose and direction. Fear ruled my days.
With regard to these last symptoms, while changes to my brain were the reason for all of them (I was diagnosed with PTSD in 2014), in my effort to learn more about the brain’s functioning to better manage my life, over time I began to further question the true extent of our ability to manifest all that we want as consciously-evolving beings, working against a brain that functions only to keep us alive. Like it or not, we instinctively react to its threat systems that warn us of danger (real or perceived – the brain doesn’t know the difference) to ensure our ongoing survival. Danger could be anything from traumatic memories of childhood dysfunction or painful experiences in later life that have threatened us in some way.
We depend on positive emotions to overcome all fear-based living. Yet, given that the emotional states that help us achieve, stay calm and feel safe are located in the new brain (frontal cortex) that has no ability to change the instinctual functioning of the middle and lower brain, we can’t just think or wish our changes into creation.
One of the first things we learn in a manifestation practice is to believe we are deserving of what we want, often using affirmations and vision boards. All of us struggle at some point to feel worthy and loved; confident and secure, regardless of where our feelings that tell us differently originate (though many do arise from childhood). We are all challenged by everyday stressors, worry and fear based on any number of issues that arise as part of the human condition.
So, what do we do?
After years struggling to understand why certain things were still challenging me or not happening fast enough in my life (especially in my grief and trauma), I am a firm believer now that by accepting the limitations imposed on us by our own physiology (the brain’s functioning), we can remove all struggle and fear of failing at consistently manifesting the changes we want that is prevalent among millions of people who believe they can just wish or envision their life changes into form. Many people who experience some success give up their manifestation practice at the first sign of “failure”. They conclude they don’t have any real power and that manifesting doesn’t work. Neither is true.
Here are two important things to consider. When the angels gifted me the practice of Divine Healing detailed in my book Divine Healing – Transforming Pain into Personal Power, they taught me that manifesting inner changes first ensures lasting abundance in all forms. Understanding where we came from, whether we received nurturing as early as in utero, and the skills we need as adults to help us change, are essential to “re-routing” our brain’s signals (similar to treating trauma). Instead of instinctively reacting to triggers, by practicing self-compassion and kindness we can teach ourselves to respond to life in a way that will always guide us to reach our full potential.