When I first heard this term it had me a little puzzled and got me thinking for a bit. That was until l realised that the statement was in fact 100% correct. We spend our lives looking at every misfortunate experience and feeling like the world is against us. We start losing faith and feeling sorry for ourselves when in fact what we should be doing is looking within and starting to recognise that what just happened to us was for our highest good.

Have you ever been crazy about somebody (that unfortunately was not crazy about you in return) only for them to reject you? You started feeling like there was something wrong with you, that is until you also realised that this person was not only a ‘player’ but also somebody that was abusive. Did god protect you in this situation? Oh yes, source certainly protected you.

Have you found people naturally move out of your life or move away from you without you actually having to do anything? Have you known toxic individuals that all of a sudden just disappear? I know that I have and I also know that source was protecting me the entire time. I have had people disappear from my life without me having to do anything. Once the sting of them leaving disappears I am able to reflect and realise that this particular individual was not good for me and was causing far too much pain and blocking me from the success and abundance I desired. You see, when you have toxic individuals in your life, whether they are partners, parents, friends, coworkers or even children, these energies can lower the vibration around you, diminish your level of self love and self worth and therefore block the incredible gifts that the universe is trying to send to you. In an attempt to bring you back into the right vibration, source will either gradually or swiftly remove them out of your life and then it is your job to make sure that they do not return until their vibration is equal or greater than yours.

I believe that making the choice to look for the gift or the lesson in every situation and taking responsibility for the part you played in that situation, you can truly make a massive change in the direction of your life. You can start to finally realise that things are not happening to you, they are happening for you and that everything that happens is simply a step on the path to your dream life. Which path you choose to take is entirely up to you. However, if you choose to listen to the messages from your higher self and the divine then you can do your best to avoid the painful paths (unless of course there are karmic lessons to be learnt) and instead choose the ones that are going to keep you in your highest vibration.

So what do you do the next time something challenging happens to you? Do you ask why it is happening to you or do you think to yourself “oh, this is like a detour. Source is creating this so that I can be one step closer to my next goal”. When something challenging happens to me now, I don’t label it as good or bad and instead I realise that whether it is good or bad is really up to somebody’s perspective. Let me illustrate by telling you a very popular tale…

​Nothing is Ever Good or Bad – It is up to your perspective…

​An old farmer used a horse to till his fields. One day, the horse ran away and when the farmers neighbors sympathised with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer shrugged his shoulders and replied “Bad luck? Good luck? Who Knows?”

A week later, the horse returned with a herd of wild mares, and this time the neighbours congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who Knows?”

Then, when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell and broke his leg. Everyone agreed this was very bad luck. But the farmer’s only reaction was, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who Knows?”

A week later, the army marched into the village and drafted all the young men they could find. When they saw the farmer’s son with his broken leg, they let him stay behind. Good luck? Bad luck?

​So as you can see, every step in that story was just one step closer to the end goal. Once you start looking at every situation like that, you can let go and trust that the divine and the universe has your back…